In this podcast we discuss healthy and unhealthy approaches to relationships. What does it look like to be proactive versus reactive and how to be aware and create healthy relationships through the relational window paradigm.
Healthy Relationship Window
Below is a comparison of healthy relationship window. Download the PDF below.
Proactive healthy approaches to relationships = Intradependent and Interdependent.
Reactive unhealthy approaches to relationships = Interactional and Independent.
Intradependent:
Fulfilled being myself.
Focus on holistic health.
Take ownership of issues.
Same in any environment.
Vulnerability as a way to invite meaningful deep relationships.
Interdependent:
Bring fulfillment to relationships.
Focus on mutual expression of relational health.
Healthy level of intimacy.
Vulnerability is a genuine expression of bonding.
Interactional:
Fulfilled being needed.
Focused on results.
Attention on other’s needs/desires keeps focus from own health.
Vulnerability is used as manipulation to get others to be vulnerable.
Engulfment and control of others.
Independent:
Fulfilled meeting own needs.
Focused on pride of not needing anyone.
Not having connected relationships.
Vulnerability takes place when person needs intimacy (emotionally or sexually).
Abandonment and isolation from others.
