CIRCLE OF RELATIONSHIPS OVERVIEW CIRCLE 1 CIRCLE 2 CIRCLE 3 CIRCLE 4 CIRCLE 5 CIRCLE 6 CIRCLE 7
S.P.I.E.S. OVERVIEW SOCIAL HEALTH PHYSICAL HEALTH INTELLECTUAL HEALTH EMOTIONAL HEALTH SPIRITUAL HEALTH
ENNEAGRAM OVERVIEW TYPE 1 TYPE 2 TYPE 3 TYPE 4 TYPE 5 TYPE 6 TYPE 7 TYPE 8 TYPE 9
IDENTITY PARADIGM SOCIAL IDENTITY PHYSICAL IDENTITY INTELLECTUAL IDENTITY EMOTIONAL IDENTITY SPIRITUAL IDENTITY
Rethinking Autonomy KARPMAN'S DRAMA TRIANGLE Confrontation with Results How to Confront with Results (Part 1) How to Confront with Results (Part 2) Questions On Confrontation More Thoughts on Confrontation (Part 1) Even More Thoughts on Confrontation (Part 2) Resilient Relationships GOALS & GRATS Calmmunication Calmmunication - Two Frequencies Calmmunication - Three Words That Create Barricades Calmmuncation - Four Approaches Calmmunication - Five Questions To Answer Calmmunication - Six Types of Listening Think Again (Collective Thinking) Think Again (Interpersonal Rethinking) Think Again (Individual Thinking) Otherish Giver Give & Take Formatting Forgiveness Part 1 Formatting Forgiveness Part 2 Feelings & Fences 8 Foundations Flooding Lake Present Invitation to Source Course 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Give It A Rest Rhythms of Rest Rest & Laziness Redefining Success A Boat Load of Success Success In Circles 1-3 Success In Circles 4-7 Awkward (Part 1) Awkward (Part 2) Love It or List It Time Budget 3 Words of Transformation (Should) 3 Words of Transformation (Good) 3 Words of Transformation (Could) Getting Even Estimating Value 7 P's OF PURPOSE 7 P's OF PURPOSE (PAST) 7 P's OF PURPOSE (PRESENT) 7 P's OF PURPOSE (PASSION) 7 P's OF PURPOSE (PEOPLE) 7 P's OF PURPOSE (PROFIT) 7 P's OF PURPOSE (PROGENY) 7 P's OF PURPOSE (PROFICIENCY) 7 P's of Purpose (Recap & Reflection) 3 P's OF INTEGRITY ONE PURPOSE OF EMOTIONS - CONNECTION TWO BASIC EMOTIONS THREE APPROACHES TO EMOTIONS FOUR RESPONSES TO EMOTIONS THE FIVE INDIGENOUS EMOTIONS THE SIX UNIVERSAL EMOTIONS POTENTIAL CONNECTIONS OF EMOTIONS A NUMBER OF THINGS ABOUT EMOTIONS ERROR & ERA FRIENDS PART 1 ERROR & ERA FRIENDS PART 2 ERROR & ERA FRIENDS PART 3 EXPECTATIONS FOR VACATIONS PART 1 EXPECTATIONS FOR VACATIONS PART 2 ARE THE GRATEFUL DEAD PART 1 ARE THE GRATEFUL DEAD PART 2 HOLIDAYS WITH THE IN-LAWS AND OUT-LAWS TRAIL THROUGH TRIALS OCCUPY DAYS FLY DAYS WHY DAYS QUESTIONS FOR TRANSITIONS THE HEALTHY RELATIONAL WINDOW DEPLETION OR COMPLETION PASSION THROUGH PLANNED NEGLIGENCE HIDE & SEEK COMMUNICATION PART 1 HIDE & SEEK COMMUNICATION PART 2 BOUNDARIES & WALLS ETR ENERGY TIME RESOURCES REST QUEST FORM & SPIRIT PART 1 FORM & SPIRIT PAR 2 FORM & SPIRIT PART 3 JOURNALING ON PURPOSE CHANGE IS A CONSTANT

STEP 1: LISTEN TO THE PODCAST

How to Confront with Results (Part 2)

In this podcast we continue addressing HOW to have effective confrontation. We will be talking about how to engage confrontation and have favorable results.

 
 
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STEP 2: TAKE THE ASSESSMENT

 
 

STEP 3: RE(SOURCE) YOUR HEALTH

Notes

5. Work on conflict personally before relationally. (Realize that confrontation is personal before it is relational)

Most conflicts that we are involved in require 90% personal work and 10% relational work. When we have worked through our own thoughts, feelings and perceptions we can then be in a place of confrontation. 

Confrontation is more a look in the mirror than it is looking at someone else.

6. Get specific about what needs to be confronted. (Get to the point quickly but with sensitivity)

Being specific in confrontation means working through a lot of vague generalities.

It takes a lot of hard work to find out what the core issue of a conflict is as we have just mentioned. 

Once the issue has been identified, get to what is to be confronted quickly. Don’t beat around the bush. Be direct while at the same time being sensitive. It takes planning to set up the environment for effective conversation as we have mentioned earlier in this podcast series. Once you have done the preparation to establish a favorable time and place, move to the issue at hand without dilly dallying.

7. Give the person a plan while being open to their plan  (Inform of actions step(s) that would help)

Anyone can tear something down and point out what is wrong. That is the easy part.

Illustration - A Flip House - When you have a flip house demo day is an easy day. Anybody can tear something apart. It takes a team with a plan to bring the house back to the place of remodel. (It takes architects and contractors skilled in their trades working together on a plan)

In confrontation it can be very easy to point out what is wrong and identify what is not working. It takes some insight, planning and dedication to come up with meaningful solutions that will work. 

8. Follow through with commitment (Be involved with affirmative action)

Arguments settled are best remembered with affirmative action.

Perseverance and commitment is what makes strong and healthy relationships.

Any professional golfer will tell you that follow through is what makes a good shot.

Any professional counselor will tell you that follow up is what makes good relationship.

A beneficial conclusion to conflict that makes for confrontation with results is following through on decided action steps with resolve. 

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