In this podcast we are going to be talking about two types of communication. The first type, FM communication, is Feeling Mode communication and has to do with expressing how we feel or perceive something. The second type, AM communication is Assessment Mode communication.
FM communication, is Feeling Mode communication and has to do with expressing how we feel or perceive something.
For FM type of people, we would suggest that you really do the homework of processing your feelings personally before expressing them relationally.. As stated earlier, no one can change anyone else’s feelings. This is a personal decision and is an inside job with a change of attitude. By working on your emotional build up personally you are untangling the negative emotions you are feeling from the core issue you wish to express. Feelings are the indicator of an issue, they are not the issue.
The second type, AM communication is Assessment Mode communication, and is based on how we analyze or figure out something to fix it. FM - feel it to connect AM - Assess it to fix.
For AM frequency type people, the people that prefer to analyze and fix the problem, it would probably serve you and your communication well if you pay attention to the four letter f word… feel. When you hear the word feel, listen to the feeling or feelings that are mentioned right after that. When your partner is finished with their discourse make sure to repeat back the feeling or feelings that you heard and if possible the reason they feel this way.
We are here to suggest a merger of the two ways to do communication. To merge these two modes of communication together using XM communication or crossover mode. This is where each partner crosses over into the other’s type of communication and seeks to understand their partner in the way that they communicate. If this is carried out properly; feelings are expressed and action is taken, if needed.
We would suggest that you determine what your type of communication is. If you are an AM person (in assessment mode wanting to fix) or an FM person (in feelings mode wanting to express your emotions). If you are really desiring to be effective in communication it will probably serve you well to seriously consider your partner’s mode of communication and look to serve it by crossing over into the frequency they are on. In this way you will tune into effective communication.
