STEP 1: LISTEN TO THE PODCAST
BOUNDARIES & WALLS
Sometimes boundaries are perceived as walls. Walls that are built for protection often become prisons.
Sometimes boundaries are perceived as walls. Walls that are built for protection often become prisons.
The Reasons Boundaries are Essential:
1. Boundaries give opportunity to evolve or transcend. You have to know the boundaries in order to learn to live beyond them.
2. Boundaries Determines value. (Example: The sabbath rest. If you don’t say no to a bunch of things then it just becomes another day.
3. Boundaries create responsibility in the relationship. (The ability to respond based on love, acceptance, value and truth)
4. Boundaries provide a basis for security for promoting consistency. (If the boundaries are constantly moving then energy, time and resources will be taken to constantly be establishing boundaries. Once the boundaries are firmly established then we can explore) Serve like a base camp for an adventure that we can return to reestablish the next adventure).
5. Boundaries institutes privacy creating intimacy. (The old party line when I was a kid. Many people in the country shared one common telephone line. Anyone on the line could pick up. People that wanted to know each other’s business could without the other party knowing. We have come along way. Now we have social media where everybody just shared with everybody openly.
6. Boundaries Establish partnership and communication about the partnership. (This gives the relationships the context of expression of each individual. It honors each person for their personhood and allows for dialogue) This is the relational dance.
7. Boundaries determine what is included and what is not. (When you are going on vacation what do you bring? You probably don’t pack a couch or your stove.) This highlights the many different roles we operate in throughout the day.