How do we respond to people that are not thankful or appreciative of what we do for them?
Most people return small favors, acknowledge medium ones and repay greater ones with… ingratitude. – Benjamin Franklin
How do I respond to no response of appreciation?
So often what we do for people is not appreciated. This lack of gratitude may come from employees, peers, family or spouse.
When we experience ingratitude we can actually use this to check out of our motive for giving or helping? Are we expecting something in return, even if that something is a single word of ‘thanks’?
Often privilege becomes anticipated, kindness becomes assumed, benefits become required and helpfulness becomes entitlement.
It may be helpful to call on our Enneagram Type to help us determine the motive of our giving.
“The deepest human need is the need to be appreciated.” - William James
The deepest human security gives from not needing to be appreciated.
Am I giving because it is expression of who I am?
Am I giving because it is an expression of my passion?
At the moment of giving am I really just letting it go?
This can be a movement from transaction to our own transformation.
If the grateful are dead then we can resurrect our awareness and then give as an expression of our essence.
