STEP 3: RE(SOURCE) YOUR HEALTH

Notes

  • Forgiveness is not approving of what happened, it is acknowledging the offense and choosing to rise above it.

  • Feelings - Forgiveness acknowledges the offense so we don’t excuse it and can consequently work through our feelings. 

    • If we deny our hurt then we can’t know when we have healed.

    • If we don’t allow ourselves to recognize the offense we will end up using one of the debilitating modes of expressing our emotions.

  • Fences - Forgiveness acknowledges the offense so we don’t excuse it and can consequently work on having healthy boundaries in relationships. We build fences.

    • If we don’t acknowledge the offense and instead try to excuse it then we cannot establish healthy boundaries.

    • Setting up fences keeps us from offenses.

  • Forgiveness does not equal restoration

  • Forgiveness does not equal trust.

  • Forgiveness is given; trust is built.